Personalized therapy for high-achieving adults
You’ve built a successful life. Make room to feel at home in it.
When responsibility, overthinking, or old patterns keep following you into the rest of your life, thoughtful therapy can help you understand what is happening and practice a different way forward.
A complimentary 20-minute phone conversation with Dr. Mandelbaum. Private pay; superbills available for out-of-network benefits.
Photograph by Dr. Matthew Mandelbaum
Capable on the outside. Carrying more than anyone sees.
Many of the people I work with are very good at what they do. What brings them here is usually quieter than a crisis:
The workday ends, but the conversations keep running.
Imagine closing the laptop and actually being somewhere else.
You arrive home with little left for the people you love.
Imagine having more of yourself left for the evening.
You get it done, and it still doesn’t feel like enough.
Imagine a measure of yourself that isn’t only the last result.
Rest feels like something you have to earn.
Imagine rest that doesn’t need a reason.
Photograph by Dr. Matthew Mandelbaum
Understanding is the start. Practice is what changes the week.
You may already understand yourself quite well. The hard part is turning that understanding into a different Tuesday evening. In our work, we connect the two.
We look at the pattern, not only this week’s problem.
Where it shows up, what it protects, and what it costs you.
You leave with something you can use.
Practical skills sized to a full schedule, drawn from DBT, CBT and trauma-informed care, and explained in plain language.
We review what’s working, together.
You bring back what happened between sessions, and we adjust.
Are you a groundbreaker?
A striver and achiever who wants a life that works, not just a career that does.
Perhaps with a history of trauma, you are invested in building an impactful, meaningful life for yourself and others. Despite your competence and record of success, you want help with self-empowerment and personal wellness. That is where we start: making your life work for you, rather than you working for your life.
- When insight alone hasn’t changed how your week goes.
- When you need to blend the “why?” with the “how do I?”
- When you want to clarify your values, turn them into goals, and build the strategies to reach them.
- When life is a marathon, and you can’t keep sprinting.
- When you want the past to inform what you do, without driving it.
- When prior therapy hasn’t worked.
- When you want a trusted collaborator who takes an active role.
- When you want to be valued for who you are, as well as what you do.
Sensitivity and intelligence are your gifts. Let’s learn how to use them better.
Meet Dr. Mandelbaum
I’m Matthew Mandelbaum, a licensed psychologist. I work with thoughtful people who are tired of holding it all together alone.
An Ivy League graduate of the University of Pennsylvania with a PhD from Fordham, I spent more than twenty years in New York City, first as an educator and then as a licensed psychologist, and now see clients in Darien, Connecticut, and by telehealth. Many of my clients are sensitive, perceptive and analytical. They want therapy that is warm and engaged, and that ties back to the life they are actually living.
| BA | University of Pennsylvania (Ivy League) |
|---|---|
| MA | New York University |
| MSEd | Bank Street College of Education |
| PhD | Fordham University |
| License | Psychologist, New York and Connecticut |
| Training | Two-year intensive DBT training, Linehan Institute |
| Telehealth | Authorized to practice in 43 States through PSYPACT |
What working together involves
The first step is simple and carries no obligation. Everything after it is shaped around you.
A 20-minute call
You request a call, and I reach out to set a time. We talk briefly about what’s bringing you here and talk through scheduling and next steps. It is a conversation about fit, not a therapy session.
Getting started
If we decide to work together, our first sessions focus on what you want to be different, and how we’ll both know it is changing.
Practice and review
We work on what matters to you, try new approaches between sessions, and review progress together. How long this takes is different for everyone.
Find the starting point that fits you
Looking for something specific? Browse areas of focus, such as anxiety, perfectionism, ADHD and executive functioning, stress, relationships, and the effects of earlier experiences.
The practical details, up front
How payment works, where I can see you and when, so you know before you ever book a call.
“I come away from each session with new things to try, and the reasons that these things can work.”
Payment & insurance
Private pay, out of network, with payment at the time of service. I provide a superbill you can submit for possible reimbursement. FSA and HSA accepted.
Where
In person in Darien, CT. Telehealth in Connecticut, Florida and New York, and across 43 PSYPACT states. Eligibility depends on where you are at the time of each session.
When
Daytime and evening appointments.
If you’d like to read more first
When you’re ready, start with a conversation.
Twenty minutes, by phone, with me. We’ll talk about what’s bringing you here and whether working together makes sense. There’s no commitment, and no pressure.